Elen sila lumenn omentielvo!

Sunday, November 28, 2010

Kind words, freely given

I'd just like to thank everyone who has weighed in either here, or on Facebook, or in e-mail about today's anniversary of Little Quinn's passing. It really doesn't feel like it's been five years, sometimes; other times, it seems like it's been longer. Maybe some time I'll write more about the various strategies The Wife and I used to cope and get through all of the challenges that Little Quinn posed, from the moment of his birth to the moment of his death. (Keep that in mind, all you regular readers -- we're two months away from the next edition of Ask Me Anything!) Those challenges were many, and they went on a long time even after he was gone -- a longer time than I had even thought likely. The passing of a child is a long-haul kind of thing.

Some of you seem to worry -- and this is perfectly normal -- about the inadequacy of the words you have to offer. Believe me when I tell you, any words of support and love and understanding are the right words. As long as they're from the heart, they're the right words, and I value each word that anyone has ever said to me about him.

So anyway, now back to regular content, huzzah! (But I'll probably be skipping Sentential Links for this week. I just haven't been online much, and judging from my traffic numbers, none of you have, either!)


Aaron said...

My heart breaks every time I think about Quinn. I cannot believe it has been five years. I remember reading your post like it was yesterday. I was at work, and was quite literally dumbfounded after reading it. I don't remember what I wrote in my response, but I do remember spending what seemed like hours composing something, that in the end still seemed grossly inadequate. It's good to know that it wasn't. My thoughts are with your family today, and honestly every day.

Andy said...

You're a good man young Jedi!!!!

Derek J. Punaro said...

I just finished reading your chronicles of Quinn. Having gone through the normal trials of raising a healthy child and about to go through it a second time, I can imagine that experience magnified a hundredfold is about your experience. I'm sure your family is much stronger for having endured it. Terrible things have a way of doing that.